Crime Victim question?

She wants to help him because she needs to feel needed and helpful. There is nothing you can do for her she has to realize she has a problem and ask for help. Just like an addict or alcoholic has to ask for help. Always keep a line open to her but do not in able her if you want to talk to her and she goes off about problems in the relationship then say to her that you gave her your advice and your tryed to giver her all the help you could. So how many time are you to hold your hand out in advice and help and have her slap it away?