Pressure to get married (pretty long story! sorry)?

There is nothing wrong with arranged marriages or what your mom is doing if you find the right guy... but since two attempts have already failed, I think your mother should let this issue go... she loves you but times have changed... you are working, you are excited about your job, and that is the priority here... focus on your job... relationships are demanding and it will affect your career... you living in another city because of your job is normal... what does she want? for you to work next to home and go back home to her? you are independent, and do what your job requires... you are able to support yourself and dont need a man to do it for you... tell your mother lovingly that marriage is a step you will take when you are ready for it because right now you are not and even if she introduces you to the greatest guy it will fail because your energy is focused on your job... its not fair for the guy or you... mom wants to secure you by marrying you off... times have changed... but dont offend her, just tell her that she will be proud of you as you succeed and excel in your career, and when it is time to get married you will consult her. Moms usually get a perfect match for their kids... I am surprised that two have failed... it means that your mother does not know you anymore, that you have changed over the years that you were gone... she will not be able to find a good match for you because she still thinks you are that girl from 6 years ago... anyway, at the moment, just find a way to postpone the marriage thing... maybe you will meet a guy that you like as you go on with your life... dont stop being a nice girl... just be smart and manouever peacefully... you will get what you want without offending anyone... mom is just loving you, dont forget that